When you discovered you were pregnant, you may have wanted to share the good news with friends and family. Perhaps you even imagined what their reactions might be – happy tears, heartfelt cuddles and, of course, congratulatory shrieks. But what happens if the pregnancy announcement doesn’t go to plan? How do you cope with bad reactions to your good news?
What causes negative reactions?
There are lots of reasons why an individual may react negatively to your news, and most of them have nothing to do with your news, and everything to do with the person reacting negatively.
If the news is unexpected, it could have been shock that caused a less than positive reaction. If taken by surprise, people might react to things differently than if the news was expected. Of course, that person should have been polite and masked their shock, but give them time to get used to the idea and see if they change their tune.
If you notice a slightly frosty reaction from friends and family, perhaps unbeknownst to you, the friend you told has been trying, unsuccessfully, to get pregnant for a number of years, and couldn’t help but feel disheartened at your news.
Alternatively, your bad reaction may have been from your fun-loving best friend. Perhaps she’s worried about losing you as a good friend as you settle down into the role of mother.
How to cope with bad reactions to your good news
Most importantly, don’t let it ruin your good news. You are excited and happy, and that’s all that really matters. Of course, you want your friends and family to be supportive, but try not to fixate on their negative reactions.
Talk to your supportive friends and family about the negative reactions. Talk openly about how it made you feel, and make sure to communicate all of this with your partner. If you are struggling with your emotions since the reactions, talk to your healthcare provider. They may be able to offer some support or advice to help you deal with the unexpected negativity.
Try not to obsess over the bad reactions, and instead focus on the good. Continue to plan for and look forward to the birth. Give your friends and family time to come round, often people feel more positively once they start to plan for the arrival of the new baby.
Give them a chance
Don’t preempt bad reactions, you may be surprised. While you be convinced your parents will be disappointed in you for falling pregnant, in reality they may be over the moon about becoming grandparents. Share your news, and give people the chance to react.
How did your friends and family react to the news of your pregnancy?
Written by Fiona (@Fiona_Peacock), mother, writer and lover of all things baby related.
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