Whether you’re embarking on a single parent pregnancy by choice, by happy accident, or by a slightly less happy accident, there are a few things you need to know. In many ways single parent pregnancy is the same as a two parent pregnancy, however there are some ways that it’s very different. Here’s the truth about single parent pregnancy:
1. It will be hard at times – pregnancy is tough, whether you’re in a loving relationship or going it alone, pregnancy can take its toll. The sickness, fatigue, mood swings, breast tenderness, and aches and pains are there whether you’re single or not.
2. It is what it is – wishing things were different won’t help, and could leave you feeling less happy. Whatever your situation is, it’s yours. So own it and make it a happy one. Find the positives about your single parent pregnancy, and focus on them each and every day. Whether you are avoiding a lifetime in an unhappy relationship, or grabbing your last chance to have a baby, remember why you are embarking on this single parent pregnancy.
3. You call the shots – you won’t spend hours arguing over baby names only to have your favourites vetoed. You won’t face disagreements about parenting methods or birth choices. Compromise will not be at the centre of your decisions. As a single parent, you call the shots. You get to choose the name, you get to decide on nursery and parenting styles.
4. You’re not alone – there are lots of other single parents out there. Facing pregnancy alone can be daunting, especially when faced with expectant couples at every antenatal class. Reaching out to a network of other single pregnant women can help you to make new friends, find support, and meet people who understand what you’re going through. Look for a local group for single mums, or find an online community to join.
5. You’ll need help – you will need to reach out to friends and family for help. Not all the time, but sometimes. When you are experiencing the worst of your pregnancy sickness, or when the fatigue leaves you unable to tidy your house, or when you want someone’s hand to hold during routine test, you will need help. And that’s ok. There’s nothing wrong with relying on friends and family for support.
6. It will be worth it – yes pregnancy is tough, and it can feel scary at times to face pregnancy and motherhood alone, but it will all be worth it. When you are cradling your newborn in your arms, it will all slot into place, and you will know you made the right decisions. When your newborn’s eyes lock with yours, searching for answers, you will know that you are the only person for the job.
Written by Fiona, proud owner of a toddler, @fiona_peacock
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