Time seems to play tricks on you from the moment you fall pregnant. Sometimes the weeks rush by, leaving you wondering how so much time has passed without you ticking off a single thing from your to do list. Other times, time will seem to crawl by at an almost excruciating pace. This is especially true during the last few weeks of pregnancy. Chances are, you’ve crossed everything off your to do list, you’ve taken time off work to prepare for the baby, and you’re waiting for the birth.

If your due date has been and gone, you are probably ready to try anything to kick start labour. Here are some tried and tested ways to naturally induce labour:

Let’s talk about sex
The theory behind this is that sex can trigger the release of oxytocin, a hormone that controls contractions during labour, and may cause labour. It is also thought that having an orgasm could help to stimulate the uterus and get labour started. As well as this, semen contains a high number of prostaglandins which may help to soften the cervix in preparation for labour. Sex has not been proven to induce labour, although there is plenty of anecdotal evidence to support the theory. Having sex with a big bump can be a bit difficult, you may have to get creative with your positioning. Spooning, woman on top, and from behind are three positions commonly used during the third trimester.

Needle in a haystack
Acupuncture has been proven to be successful at inducing labour, although only a limited number of studies have been carried out. Acupuncture involves the insertion of very fine needles into the body. Depending on the placement of the needles, the energy within the body is stimulated to work in a certain way. Acupuncture is safe during pregnancy, and may start to work as soon as six hours after the appointment.

Hot, hot, hot
There is no evidence to back up this claim, but many women swear it was a spicy curry that kick started their labours. The theory is that eating very spicy food can cause affect your digestive system, which may in turn cause your uterus to contract. Spicy food also contains prostaglandins which may also cause contractions.

Second base
Nipple stimulation is said to be effective for inducing labour as it releases the contraction-causing hormone oxytocin. Your nipple stimulation should mimic a baby suckling, because this is how the oxytocin release will be triggered. Massage your whole nipple, one at a time, including the areola, for five minutes. Then take a 15 minute break, and try this again on the other breast if nothing has happened. You should repeat this for about an hour, three times a day. You should cease nipple stimulation once labour has started.

Touch me babe
An induction massage is said to be an effective way to induce labour, and even if it doesn’t work for you, it will be a nice way to relax before the baby arrives. Choose a masseuse who is train in induction massages, and they will work on acupressure points that are usually avoided during pregnancy for fear of induction. They will also use specific essential oils that are said to induce labour.

Round the block
Walking may help to bring on labour. The rhythmic pressure of the baby’s head pushing down on your cervix as you walk, may stimulate the release of oxytocin. It can also help to get baby in a good position for the birth. Try not to tire yourself out, if labour does start, you will need plenty of energy. A short stroll round the block every hour or so is probably best. Bouncing on a birthing ball could also have a similar effect.

If you try any of the above and have success, let us know. What have you tried so far to induce labour?

Written by Fiona (@Fiona_Peacock), mother, writer and lover of all things baby related.

This information is not intended to replace the advice of a trained medical doctor. Health & Parenting Ltd disclaims any liability for the decisions you make based on this information, which is provided to you on a general information basis only and not as a substitute for personalized medical advice. All contents copyright © Health & Parenting Ltd 2017. All rights reserved.

Making the leap from a family of three to a family of four, or more, can be daunting for parents. You may be worried about how you will cope with the sleepless nights now that you have a toddler to look after as well. Or how, in the midst of those first few weeks, you will find the energy and time to properly care for your existing child, considering that last time you struggled to find the time to feed yourself.

Your biggest worry though, the one that keeps you awake at night, is how your first child will feel when the new baby arrives. How can you avoid feelings of resentment building up, or your eldest feeling left out? What steps can you take to lay the foundations for a loving and respectful sibling relationship? Here are five tips to prepare your child for a new baby:

1. Involvement – the first way to stop your child feeling left out is to actively involve him. This could include taking your child to midwife appointments, if practical, and accompanying you to antenatal scans. You could use a pregnancy week by week book to research the baby’s development together each week. Towards the end of the pregnancy, you may like to get your child involved in choosing items for the nursery. The level of involvement will depend on your child’s age.
2. Bonding – bonding with your bump is a great way to build a good relationship between siblings. Not only will it help him adjust to the idea of a sibling, it will help the baby to recognise his voice after the birth. Ask him to read or talk to the bump for a few minutes each day. If the baby has an active period during the day, you could try it then so that your child can feel the baby’s kicks and movements responding to his voice.
3. Communication – your child is likely to have a lot of questions about the new baby, including questions like “but how did it get in your tummy?” and, “how will it get out?”. Children are naturally inquisitive and love learning new things. Try to answer the questions as honestly as you can, or you could research it together using age-appropriate books if you prefer.
4. Hospital – if you are planning to give birth in the hospital, the separation from you will be difficult for your child. Make sure your child will be looked after by someone he trusts and enjoys spending time with. Prepare him for the separation, and explain that they will be able to visit as soon as possible. Make sure your partner stays in contact with your child throughout the birth, to keep reassuring him that you and baby are both ok. Some children worry about their mother’s safety during childbirth, and this can be quite stressful for them.
5. Caring – your child may not yet be old enough to help look after the baby, but they could help you while you look after the baby. Giving your child responsibilities, such as getting the baby wipes or massage oil, can be a great way to involve your child in the baby care. You could also buy your child a doll to take care of while you are busy with the baby. You will find that he copies what you are doing, and will probably sit quietly next to you, caring for his doll as you care for the baby. For a little while at least!

If you think your oldest child is feeling jealous and resentful, try to spend some quality time with him away from the baby. Sometimes all it can take is an hour of uninterrupted play for your child to feel happy and ready to welcome the new baby again. Using a sling, especially one that allows for breastfeeding, can be a lifesaver when you have an older child. You’ll have your hands free to play with your child, and your baby will be happy feeding or sleeping in the sling.

Do you have any tips for introducing a new baby to an existing child?

Written by Fiona (@Fiona_Peacock), mother, writer and lover of all things baby related.

This information is not intended to replace the advice of a trained medical doctor. Health & Parenting Ltd disclaims any liability for the decisions you make based on this information, which is provided to you on a general information basis only and not as a substitute for personalized medical advice. All contents copyright © Health & Parenting Ltd 2017. All rights reserved.

Have you noticed that since you have become pregnant, your mother-in-law (or partner’s mom) has been overly involved in your life. Has she been offering all sorts of advice, and trying to tell you what you should and shouldn’t do along the way?

Pregnancy definitely brings out the best and the worst in people. Chances are that the grandparents to be of the baby are super excited about your up and coming birth and are eager to share and be part of everything. And this can be both a welcome way to bond with extended family, and a frustrating intrusion.

For so many women, dealing with meddling mothers-in-law is very difficult. If she is overly involved in your pregnancy, and seems to be overstepping her boundaries with you, you can pretty much bet that once the baby is here, she will be even more over burdening. While the help can be wonderful, and the extra interest in your pregnancy can make you feel loved – it can also feel a little intrusive.

Setting boundaries with the in-laws is never easy. Enter pregnancy into the picture, and things are complicated ten-fold. But it is something you must do.  Gently, of course. First, try to see her interest in your pregnancy as just an extension of the love she feels for the baby to be. When you see her actions coming from a place of love, it will feel a little less officious. Remember that she is EXCITED. Chances are she is not purposely trying to undermine you in any way, and may not even realize she is doing this.

Secondly, listen to her. This doesn’t mean that you have to do everything that she says, or follow her advice to a tee – but give her the courtesy of hearing her out. After all, she has been here before and she may have some useful information. If she inquires as to why you are not doing something ‘her way,’ just assert yourself and say, “I appreciate your concern, but I think this is a better choice for me.” This will help to slowly and surely set boundaries that show you respect her, but that you are also a capable and responsible adult who can make her own decisions as well.

Another thing to consider BEFORE delivery is whether or not you are going to allow your in-laws in the delivery room. Giving birth is very personal, and only YOU can decide who you want with you. Many people want the birth to be a private experience saved for just mother and father of the baby. And this is okay. Even if your in-laws or extended family don’t understand it, this is a once in a lifetime moment for you and the father-to-be, and you need to take steps to make it about you and your new family. They can meet the baby soon enough in the waiting room, right?

Another tidbit of advice: from the moment your baby is born, set limits with pesky in-laws who meddle. It is not okay for a grandparent to visit unannounced at any time of day. It is not okay for a mother-in-law (or your own mom) to make decisions for your baby regardless of what you think or feel. You and the baby’s father are the ones who get to make the decisions.

Last but not least, if your mother-in-law is meddling and a little intrusive – ask for your partner’s help. Remember this is HIS mom, HIS family – and he should advocate for you so that you aren’t the bad guy in the situation.

Having a baby changes the family dynamic in many ways. Most of the changes are positive and only enhance the amount of love and bonding that takes place. Still, it can be a rocky road in the beginning to set boundaries and limits with others.

Written By Stef, Mom of 4 @Momspirational

This information is not intended to replace the advice of a trained medical doctor. Health & Parenting Ltd disclaims any liability for the decisions you make based on this information, which is provided to you on a general information basis only and not as a substitute for personalized medical advice. All contents copyright © Health & Parenting Ltd 2017. All rights reserved.

Sciatica is the name given to pain caused by the compression or irritation of the sciatic nerve. The sciatic nerve runs from the back of your pelvis, through your buttocks, and all the way down to your feet. When the sciatic nerve is compressed or irritated, you may feel pain in your lower back radiating down to your calf. Some people experience mild discomfort, but others find sciatica to be very painful.

Sciatica during pregnancy
The sciatic nerve runs underneath your uterus. Towards the end of the pregnancy, the pressure of your growing uterus can put pressure on the sciatic nerve. In some cases, sciatica may appear earlier in the pregnancy, especially if you have a history of spinal disorders.

Symptoms of sciatica
Possible symptoms of sciatica include:

• pain radiating from the lower back, buttocks and legs – this pain may be worsened by coughing, sneezing and laughing
• pins and needles in the foot, leg or lower back
• numbness in the foot, leg or lower back
• muscle weakness in the foot, leg or lower back
• shooting pain in the lower back or buttocks

Sciatica treatment during pregnancy
In some cases, sciatica pain disappears by itself in a matter of hours, days or weeks. In some cases, the sciatica may last longer than 12 weeks, this is known as persistent sciatica. The following self-help tips may help you to relieve the discomfort caused by sciatica:

• apply an ice pack for 10 minutes
• apply a heat compress for 10 minutes
• wear flat, comfortable shoes
• avoid heavy lifting
• maintain good posture
• use a rolled up hand towel in the arch of your back to help you to maintain good posture when seated
• try not to stay in the same position for long periods
• drink plenty of water
• use extra pillows to support the weight of your bump in bed
• take regular light exercise, such as swimming
• have a massage from an experienced therapist to relieve some of the pressure on your sciatic nerve

It is important to inform your healthcare provider if you experience sciatica during pregnancy. If the pain is preventing you from going about your daily business, your healthcare provider may refer you to a specialist physiotherapist for further advice.

Sciatica and childbirth
Most women who experience sciatica during pregnancy will find the condition has resolved itself before they go into labour. If you are suffering from sciatica during childbirth, you may need to adjust your birth plan accordingly. Water births can allow movement without putting pressure on the sciatic nerve, so this may be an option you wish to consider. Speak to your healthcare provider about how sciatica could affect your birth.

Written by Fiona, proud owner of a toddler, @fiona_peacock

This information is not intended to replace the advice of a trained medical doctor. Health & Parenting Ltd disclaims any liability for the decisions you make based on this information, which is provided to you on a general information basis only and not as a substitute for personalized medical advice. All contents copyright © Health & Parenting Ltd 2017. All rights reserved.

Rib pain during pregnancy usually occurs during the third trimester, although some women do experience it sooner. By this point, you have probably suffered your fair share of back aches, round ligament pain, and hip pain. Unfortunately, you may now want to add ‘sore ribs’ to your list of pregnancy ailments.

As your baby grows, the top of your uterus will reach almost as high as your breastbone, and this will put pressure on your rib cage. As well as this, your baby has grown bigger and is now running out of space, so is probably kicking and elbowing you while she tries to find a comfortable position.

Coping with sore ribs

Unfortunately, there isn’t a magic cure for this discomfort, although there are a few things you can try for temporary relief:

• avoid tight clothing – tight, restrictive clothing will simply add to the pressure on your rib cage. Opt for loose fitting clothes to give yourself room to breathe.
• buy a new bra – during pregnancy, your rib cage expands to make room for your growing uterus. As well as this, the average woman has up to 1lb (0.4kg) extra breast fat by the end of the pregnancy. Wearing properly fitting bras can help to relieve some of the pressure on your rib cage. To save money, choose nursing bras that will be useful after the birth, too.
• lean back – rib pain usually worsens when you lean forward, so try to avoid this. Try to maintain good posture when sitting and standing, or lean back slightly if this helps to relieve the pain.
• hog the pillows – use pillows to prop yourself up in the night, having a pillow under your bump can take some of the strain off your bones and muscles and may reduce rib pain.
• move around – try to avoid sitting or standing in the same position for too long. Try to move around and take regular short walks.
• exercise – light exercise such as swimming and yoga are great for relieving rib pain.
• warm water – relaxing in a warm bath, or even taking a quick warm shower, may help to provide short term relief from sore ribs.

If you are in a lot of pain, speak to your healthcare provider about pain medication. There are some medications that are safe to take during pregnancy, but you should always seek medical advice first.

Shortly after week 36, you should find that you experience some relief as the baby, and your uterus, drop slightly in preparation for the birth. All of a sudden you should find that your rib pain has gone, and you are breathing easier.

Written by Fiona (@Fiona_Peacock), mother, writer and lover of all things baby related.

This information is not intended to replace the advice of a trained medical doctor. Health & Parenting Ltd disclaims any liability for the decisions you make based on this information, which is provided to you on a general information basis only and not as a substitute for personalized medical advice. All contents copyright © Health & Parenting Ltd 2017. All rights reserved.

As you are planning your birth, have you thought about your baby’s transition to the outside world? How would you like to greet your baby, and how would you like to spend those precious first moments? Recent research shows babies do best when given skin-to-skin contact with mom for the first hour after birth – or until the first breastfeeding takes place.

Amazingly, babies seem to be pre-programmed to expect contact with mom after birth. When a baby is left prone on mom’s abdomen after an unmedicated birth, he begins to use his reflexes to get to the breast. Once there, he will usually latch and begin nursing within the first hour. You don’t need to be that laissez faire about it – you can be more deliberate about snuggling your baby in a cradle hold and offering the breast. But babies know what to do – it’s sometimes our routines and procedures that get in the way!

The Benefits of Skin-to-Skin:
Babies who spend time skin-to-skin with their mothers after birth:

• Have more regular breathing and heart rate,
• Cry less (thus conserving energy),
• Stay warmer than babies in standard care (placed on a warming bed apart from their mothers), and
• Breastfeed better and longer.

But I’m Having a Cesarean Birth …
Doctors are now recognizing that skin-to-skin time with their mothers is a basic necessity for newborns, and are helping this to happen even when mom and baby need a surgical birth. Sometimes referred to a ‘gentle cesarean,’ baby is placed skin-to-skin on mom’s chest as the surgical repair is made, and remains there as mom is recovering. Let your doctor know ahead of time that skin-to-skin is important to you, and work with your healthcare team to develop a plan for successfully achieving a ‘gentle cesarean.’

Sometimes Skin-to-Skin Can’t Be Done
If mom or baby need life-saving care in the minutes or hours after birth, skin-to-skin will need to be postponed. If mom is ill, dad can take over skin-to-skin duties. If baby is ill, skin-to-skin can be done as soon as baby is stable. Spending time skin-to-skin can sometimes heal the emotional wounds of a traumatic birth – for both mom and baby – even if it’s done months later.

Does it end after that first hour?
Skin-to-skin time is great for baby at any age – whether minutes, days or weeks old. This is especially true for babies who are having breastfeeding difficulties. If you imagine your baby’s first three months of life as a 4th trimester, you can help baby adapt to life outsider the womb by recreating a womb-like environment – constant carrying, skin-to-skin, breastfeeding on demand, etc.

Written by Michelle, lactation consultant, childbirth instructor, writer and editor, and mom to 4 busy kids

This information is not intended to replace the advice of a trained medical doctor. Health & Parenting Ltd disclaims any liability for the decisions you make based on this information, which is provided to you on a general information basis only and not as a substitute for personalized medical advice. All contents copyright © Health & Parenting Ltd 2017. All rights reserved.

Research shows that women who receive continuous emotional and physical encouragement during labor are less likely to need pain relief, medical intervention, assisted delivery, or cesarean surgery, and generally experience shorter labors. Additionally, after the fact, women who had supportive birth partners tend to view their birth experience in a more positive light, and some research even shows that they have less post-partum depression, and breastfeed easier.

Wow, right? That all sounds great. So how do you choose? Choosing a birth partner is not as easy as it may sound. Is your partner automatically the right choice? Would a female friend or family member, or someone who has been through labor and delivery before be a better choice? What about your mom? Are you worried about offending someone by not inviting them into the room with you?

The truth is that labor and delivery is typically a long event. Your partner, who may be just as nervous and anxious as you – and may not do very well in the face of blood and guts – may not be the best person to have at your side. This doesn’t mean that he shouldn’t be allowed or invited in the room, but perhaps having a good friend or trusted loved one by your side AS WELL, is a good option. In fact, there are many people who hire a doula for just this purpose – to help keep them calm, talk them through the labor and make the experience as beautiful as possible.

The last person you want to choose as your birth partner is someone who is overly anxious, or worried, or who would react badly in rough situations. And yet, you also want someone who knows what YOU want, and who will advocate for you. You want someone who is not afraid to ask questions of the medical staff, who isn’t afraid to intervene, and who pays attention to everything that goes on around you. Remember, you will have enough going on and you will need someone else there to help with the minor details. You should also choose a birth partner who is not afraid to baby you a little bit, and who is truly and earnestly concerned with your wellbeing. No woman wants a birth partner to stand beside her and tell her to ‘suck it up,’ or ‘calm down.’ You need compassion and assistance that is positive during this time in your life.

Many women prefer to have another female, especially one who has already had a baby, by their side when they give birth. Having someone who will make you laugh and will help you pass the time is a good way to stay distracted (or at least as distracted as possible during this difficult time).

If you are really lucky, your partner will be the perfect match. But if not, don’t fret. And don’t be afraid to ask a friend, loved one or family member to sit by your side and literally and metaphorically hold your hand. Do this ahead of time, and make sure that they are aware of your birth plan, and anything that you do or don’t want during pregnancy. Chances are, they will be delighted that you chose them. And, they may be of great help to the baby’s father as well.

Essentially, having someone with you who can remain calm and supportive is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. This is your birth, and you want to be able to look back on it and remember how special it was.  The perfect birth partner can help you do just that. If you don’t know anyone, consider talking with doulas in your area.

Written By Stef, Mom of 4 @Momspirational

This information is not intended to replace the advice of a trained medical doctor. Health & Parenting Ltd disclaims any liability for the decisions you make based on this information, which is provided to you on a general information basis only and not as a substitute for personalized medical advice. All contents copyright © Health & Parenting Ltd 2017. All rights reserved.

Oh baby, baby! He’s coming, and you are scared to death. You have no idea what to expect, have heard horror stories from friends and family members, and are not a big fan of pain. What if you freak out completely? What if you can’t handle it? Will it hurt? Is it possible to have a nervous breakdown in the delivery room?

The list of worries is endless. And you are not alone. Your birth experience is one of the most life changing moments in your life, and until you get there, you have no idea how you will react, or how you feel. It is not something that you can truly learn about by listening to other people.

Most hospitals are equipped in every way possible to get you through it, and keep you calm. Lamaze and birthing classes have likely armed you with the tools to breathing and helping you relax during labor. Even so, you might be overly apprehensive and most health care providers do not like to give their laboring patients any medications for anxiety or stress because they will also affect the unborn baby.

Enter Bach Flower remedies. Flower remedies have long been used in holistic medicine to help people deal with a malady of everyday problems. And labor and delivery is no different. In fact, Bach flower rescue remedies are available at your local herb shop and are considered safe for pregnant women in the last trimester. (Please check with your healthcare provider before taking).

Bach flower remedies aren’t a food or a medication. They are homeopathic-like tinctures prepared with water and/or alcohol and a variety of flowers. Ideally, the flower types would be tailored to you personally, and would depend on your individual personality traits and concerns. Work with a naturopath or someone trained in Bach flower remedies for the best results.

You can find Bach flower remedies in both essential oils, herbal blends and even in spritzers and creams. Many cultures believe that women who use Bach flower remedies in the last few weeks of pregnancy are able to remain more calm and focused in the last few weeks of pregnancy and during labor. Bach flower is one of the oldest rescue and emergency herbs used to treat anxiety and stress. Some even believe that the Bach flower creams can help reduce pain during labor as well. (Very few clinical studies have been done, so you may want to do some research yourself before buying the Bach flower remedies)

Bach flower is listed as a flower blend that can help you with worry, stress, shock, stress and as an aid to help boost energy levels during pregnancy. If you are suffering from any of these things, Bach Flower essence may be EXACTLY what you need.

Written By Stef, Mom of 4 @Momspirational

This information is not intended to replace the advice of a trained medical doctor. Health & Parenting Ltd disclaims any liability for the decisions you make based on this information, which is provided to you on a general information basis only and not as a substitute for personalized medical advice. All contents copyright © Health & Parenting Ltd 2017. All rights reserved.

Breastfeeding comes naturally to some mothers and babies, but some will have problems along the way. By preparing yourself for a potential struggle, you may avoid feelings of disappointment and failure if you have to work at breastfeeding.

One thing to remember is that most breastfeeding problems are temporary and can be overcome. Only around one percent of mothers are physically unable to breastfeed. If you find yourself struggling to feed your newborn, the most important thing you can do is ask for help. Speak to your healthcare provider straight away, they will be able to diagnose the problem and offer you the support necessary to help you continue on your breastfeeding journey.

There are a number of common breastfeeding problems, and the more you know about them, the easier you will find it to identify any problems you may face.

Sore nipples
Some women have very sensitive nipples, and can experience some discomfort as their nipples “toughen up” for breastfeeding. This pain is temporary and will soon disappear once you are in the swing of breastfeeding.

Some women find that each breastfeed is painful, this could be down to a painful letdown. Letdown is the moment your milk starts to flow. If this is to blame, the pain will disappear after about a minute of feeding.

If you are still in pain after one minute, you should remove your baby from the breast. The pain may be caused by an improper latch, so try latching the baby onto your breast again to see if that helps. Make sure baby’s mouth is wide open and baby’s body is at breast level and tummy-to-mummy – these minor adjustments can relieve a lot of pain.

If your nipples are sore and cracked, you can rub a few drops of breast milk into the nipple at the end of each feed. This will help to keep the skin moisturised and should encourage healing. You might also try using a purified lanolin made especially for breastfeeding mums.

Thrush
Pink, sore nipples that itch could be a symptom of thrush. If your nipples are infected with thrush, your baby may be suffering from oral thrush. Contact your healthcare provider if you think you have thrush. Antifungal cream will be prescribed to treat the infection. Both mom and baby should be treated.

Blocked milk ducts
If you are suffering from tender, hard, hot breasts, you may have blocked milk ducts. This condition can be very painful, but can be treated at home by getting lots of rest, feeding from the affected side to clear the blockage, and applying heat to the affected area. Hand expressing may also help to clear the blockage, and pain relief may help to alleviate any discomfort (speak to your pharmacist to find out what you can take while breastfeeding). Contact your healthcare provider if you are still experiencing pain 48 hours after onset.

Mastitis
Mastitis can be caused by a bacterial infection, or improper drainage of the breast. It is a painful condition and the affected breast(s) will feel hard and hot to the touch, will appear red and inflamed, and you may experience a burning sensation during feeds. Mastitis is often accompanied by flu-like symptoms.

Contact your healthcare provider if you think you are suffering from mastitis, since antibiotics are sometimes needed to fight the infection. Use heat compresses, drink plenty of water, rest, and continue to feed through the affected breast to speed up recovery. Your healthcare provider may recommend pain relief for the discomfort.

Tongue tie
Some babies are born with an excessively tight piece of skin connecting the floor of the mouth to the underside of the tongue. This is known as a tongue tie and can cause feeding problems. If you think your baby has a tongue tie, or if you are experiencing ongoing feeding problems, you should contact your healthcare provider for diagnosis and treatment. Tongue tie most often causes nipple soreness, low milk supply and slow weight gain.

Seeking support
Try not to feel disheartened if you run into problems at the start of your breastfeeding journey. Remember, most women seek assistance in the early weeks of feeding. Breastfeeding is natural, but that doesn’t mean it comes naturally. Speak to your healthcare provider to find breastfeeding support in your local area.

Written by Fiona, proud owner of a toddler, @fiona_peacock

This information is not intended to replace the advice of a trained medical doctor. Health & Parenting Ltd disclaims any liability for the decisions you make based on this information, which is provided to you on a general information basis only and not as a substitute for personalized medical advice. All contents copyright © Health & Parenting Ltd 2017. All rights reserved.

The world seems to be filled with products claiming to be essential items for your newborn. Companies are practically jumping out of catalogues screaming “buy me!”. Nappy (diaper) brands and toy shops seem to be vying for your attention as you sit down to watch TV. You can’t even open a newspaper these days without baby-related coupons falling into your lap. The baby product market is huge, and continues to grow each year.

It won’t surprise you to hear that you don’t really need to buy every single product available for babies, but how do you know which ones to buy? Here’s a new baby checklist for you:

Clothes
This is probably one of the most enjoyable purchases, because the clothes are so tiny and adorable. But – yes, a but – there’s no need to break the bank. Your baby will probably receive lots of clothes from admiring visitors, so you really only need to buy the essentials. You will need:

• seven bodysuits
• seven sleepsuits
• a hat (for warmth or shade, depending on the season)
• knitwear (cardigans are easy to put on and take off – avoid jumpers for the first few months)
• socks or booties
• a few bibs

It’s unlikely that you’ll get through the pregnancy without buying at least one outfit for your unborn child, so do enjoy the odd splurge.

Changing
Now we’re getting to the less glamorous side of parenting – dirty nappies (diapers). During the first year, your baby will require around 3000 nappy changes. Yes, you read that right. For this wonderful pastime, you will need:

• diapers (cloth or disposable)
• wipes (washable or disposable)
• a changing mat
• nappy rash cream (or coconut oil, if you’d like a natural alternative)

Sleeping
Newborn babies sleep a lot, some up to 18 hours a day, so you want to make sure they’re comfortable. You’ll need to buy:

• a bed – this could be a side sleeper to attach to your bed, a crib, a bassinet, or a cot. Your baby will probably spend at least the first six months sleeping in your bedroom, so think about this when choosing a bed for your newborn
• growbags or sleep sacks – these are considered safer than blankets, so it’s worth investing in a couple of these
• blankets – these are great for when your out and about, or having a cuddle on the sofa
• bedding – your baby will need a firm mattress and sheets for his bed. Be sure the mattress fits the bed well. Do not use a pillow or blankets for a sleeping baby

Feeding
Your feeding purchases will depend on whether you decide to breast- or bottle-feed your baby. For breastfeeding, you may need:

• burp cloths
• a nursing pillow
• nipple cream
• breast pads
• nursing bras

For bottle fed babies, you will need to buy:

• 4-ounce bottles and teats
• 8-ounce bottles and teats
• formula (speak to your healthcare provider for information on deciding which brand to use)

Health and safety
It’s easy to overlook the safety aspects of having a newborn in the house, but you shouldn’t. You will need:

• a first aid kit
• a digital ear thermometer
• baby nail clippers
• a baby monitor

Toys
For the first few months of life, your baby won’t pay much attention to toys, but you may like to have a few to hand just in case. You may like to purchase:

• a couple of books
• a rattle
• a teether

Remember, your baby will probably receive a few toys as gifts, so you don’t need to buy lots.

The biggies
You will need to buy the following big items in preparation for your baby’s arrival:

• a car seat – this is a must-have. They won’t let you leave the hospital without it, so make sure you have one before you go into labour
• a sling – slings are a great way to carry your baby and keep your hands free for other things. Babies love hearing your heartbeat and being close to you, a sling is a great way to offer that while still being able to get things done
• a stroller – you may like to buy a stroller for out and about too, although you can choose to use the sling full-time, if you prefer
• a chest of drawers – you will need somewhere to keep all of your baby’s things, so it’s worth investing in some furniture, too.

Have you got all of the above in preparation for your baby’s birth? Do you think this list is missing any essential items?

Written by Fiona, proud owner of a toddler, @fiona_peacock

This information is not intended to replace the advice of a trained medical doctor. Health & Parenting Ltd disclaims any liability for the decisions you make based on this information, which is provided to you on a general information basis only and not as a substitute for personalized medical advice. All contents copyright © Health & Parenting Ltd 2017. All rights reserved.

As you get later in pregnancy, and begin to develop the all too familiar feel of Braxton Hicks contraction, and the anticipation of labor and delivery loom, it is only natural to start adding more things to your list of worries. For many moms, one of the most common new worries is, “I’m 28 weeks, will my baby survive if born today?”

This worry can be made worse when you go to the doctor for your regular visit and they start using words such as, you are effaced, or your cervix is thinning, or your mucous plug is loosening. People may be telling you that you are ‘dropping’ which occurs near the end of pregnancy as the baby settles into the birth canal or that you appear further along than you really are. So you start worrying!

The biggest concern of course is what would happen if your baby was born early? The good news is that fewer than 1% of all babies born in countries where prenatal care if offered are born before 28 weeks. So the chance of this happening to you is slim to none. Additionally, with newer technology and advances in neonatal care, there have been babies born at 22 weeks who have survived. So if your baby were to be born today, at the 28 week mark, chances are he or she would survive.

But the road for your baby would be tough, and might include many complications. (We won’t delve into those here so we don’t unnecessarily worry you more.)

A pregnancy is considered full term after 37 completed weeks. If you are having any complications with your pregnancy that may foster a premature birth, you need to relax and take things day by day. Your baby is growing by leaps and bounds every day, and the longer you stay pregnant – the better off they will be in the long term.

While some women go into pre-term labor unexpectedly with no history of premature deliveries and without having a high risk pregnancy, this, too, is extremely rare. In most cases of premature birth you and your health care provider are aware of certain conditions that exist with you or with your developing baby that may increase your chance of delivering early. So, if you are visiting your health care provider regularly, following their recommendations and paying attention to your body and how you feel – chances are pretty good that you will make it to the full term marker. (Or frustratingly beyond!)

The best thing for you to do is to try not to worry. When anxieties seem to get the better of you, or you hear a story about a premature delivery that frightens you, take a few deep breaths and try to relax. At the same time, you can take heart knowing that if your baby were born today, while their future would be filled with a lot of medical intervention and possible complications, he or she does have a good chance at survival and living a healthy, normal life.

Written By Stef, Mom of 4 @Momspirational

This information is not intended to replace the advice of a trained medical doctor. Health & Parenting Ltd disclaims any liability for the decisions you make based on this information, which is provided to you on a general information basis only and not as a substitute for personalized medical advice. All contents copyright © Health & Parenting Ltd 2017. All rights reserved.

Staying active during childbirth will encourage your labour to progress. At the beginning of labour, you may find you can move around quite easily. Walking, rocking and swaying are all actions that may be useful to you during labour. You should aim to stay active throughout the birth if possible, as this will help your contractions to be stronger and more effective.

In an active birth, you should be able to move and change position freely. While women on TV are usually shown giving birth flat on their back, this is not an ideal position for labour. Research has found that women who give birth lying down experience more painful and less effective contractions, longer labours and reduced blood flow to their babies.

Birthing positions

You may find that changing position every so often helps you to deal with any discomfort caused by the contractions. Follow your instincts and do whatever you feel you need to. Here are a few suggested positions that have been found to be effective during the pushing stage of labour:

1. Kneeling – kneeling upright with your legs apart is a particularly useful position for women experiencing backache during contractions. You can adopt this position using your birth partner, a birthing ball, chair or bed to lean on for support. During contractions, flex your lower back and buttocks as you bear down.
2. Squatting – this position opens your pelvis up to 30 percent more than lying down, so is well worth a try. Squatting allows gravity to help you labour, which can lead to a shorter pushing stage. This is a tiring position though, so you may want to rehearse squatting during pregnancy to see how long you can hold the position for. During labour, it is advisable to be supported in your squatting position. Your birthing partner can can stand behind you, and support you from under your arms as you squat. Some birthing rooms have ropes for use during active labour, these hang from the ceiling and you use them to support yourself in a squat position. Some midwives have birthing stools to help you get into a supported squat.
3. Sitting – this position is great for helping you rest between contractions. You could sit on a birthing ball, chair or toilet – it’s up to you. Sitting opens up your pelvis and allows the baby to travel down the birth canal.
4. Leaning – leaning forward during contractions can help to manage discomfort. If you are having a water birth, you may find that leaning over the side of the pool can provide more relief. You could lean over a chair, the bed, or lean on your partner for support. Leaning also frees up your back so that your partner can provide a lower back massage during contractions, this may be useful if you are feeling the contractions in your back.

It’s impossible to predict how you will experience labour on the day, so just get into whichever position feels right for you at the time. You should find that you naturally adopt different positions throughout the birth, and these will help your labour to progress.

What positions are you hoping to try during labour?

Written by Fiona, proud owner of a toddler, @fiona_peacock

This information is not intended to replace the advice of a trained medical doctor. Health & Parenting Ltd disclaims any liability for the decisions you make based on this information, which is provided to you on a general information basis only and not as a substitute for personalized medical advice. All contents copyright © Health & Parenting Ltd 2017. All rights reserved.